Recently, a student at Air University, Maxwell Air Force Base, in Montgomery, AL sent me an email asking about balancing the “journey” with the “destinations.” He shared that he’s got a lot to juggle, and he’s always thinking about working on the “right things.”

Do you relate to that feeling inside of being REALLY BUSY, and then looking around and wondering if it’s all worth it?

I can too.

In my book Your Best Just Got Better, I quote Lewis Carroll in Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland when she was talking with the Cheshire Cat…

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”

“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.

“I don’t much care where—” said Alice.

“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.

“—so long as I get somewhere,” Alice added as an explanation.

“Oh, you’re sure to do that,” said the Cat, “if you only walk long enough.”

How often do you talk about the Journey and the Destination? I always require myself to step back and ask myself:

“Which is Which?”

Since 2007, I’ve worked 1:1 with more than 500 leaders in business, non-profit, military and education positions. Regularly, these women and men share their goals, their dreams and their fears with me as they outline their approach to now just WHAT they do for a living, but HOW they live and work.

When I give them a plan, I always share things that I think about myself.

For example:

  • Is me speaking at Air University a journey? Or the destination?
  • Is the Better Man Course I wrote a Journey? Or a Destination?
  • Is attending a workshop on Emotional Intelligence a Journey…?
  • Is me meeting a new friend… you get it.

You’ve got to be more specific … I get it, and then I’ll push you on it.

When I work with someone going through change (a change in life OR at work), one of the topics we do discuss is salary/compensation. I have found that of all the goals I can work on with people, the “money thing” is the easier one to start with? Why? Because it’s just about numbers.

If you’ll be honest with yourself as you’re going through change and let yourself “see the numbers,” you put yourself in a position to make powerful decisions.

If “being a millionaire” is something someone wants as a destination, we can help them by asking:

  • Do you want to make a million dollars? (Over the course of a lifetime?)
  • Do you want to have a million dollars to your name? (In of savings/real estate/investing accounts?)
  • Do you want to earn a million dollars a year? (That’s $86,000 a month, for 12 months…)

I’m not here to judge; I am here to help you define your #KnownFor.

What is the AMBITION?

Or, we talk about in our book Get Momentum,

“What’s your #KnownFor?”

And, once you identify THAT, you’re ready to add new people to your circle of influence.

  1. Soon after I added someone who made a million dollars a year (actually, he made a little more than that) to my social network, I went from earning $60,000 a year to more than $150,000. Within 24 months!
  2. The moment I added someone who’d written more than 40 books to my network, I published a book. (Within 11 months!)
  3. The moment I added someone who had a better relationship with his wife to my network, I became a better – and happier – husband.

I think you get it… it’s not a matter of WHAT the goal is, just be specific.

Know your #KnownFor.

Once you know your #KnownFor, add people to your network who have already gotten there. Not just to copy them; you may ultimately do things differently than he or she does.

The important thing is to be around someone who is there…in their version of the journey… AND the destination!