This is an important week for you to start building your network.
When you think about going to work, going home, going to one of your kids’ sports games, going out to dinner…WHO comes to mind? For a moment, let yourself think about this: over the next week or two, you’ll spend a LOT of time with people who can influence you to think, act, and believe in what’s possible (or not).
It might be easy to think of the people in your life you would like to spend more time with; but, what would happen if you spent less time influenced by some of the more negative people you know?
Watch What (and Who) You Let In
“Team You.” This is the group of the the 4, 5 or 6 people you can count on to help you get to your next “there.” (Step one, of course, is to have already identified where your next “there” is. The goals may be personal, professional, or somewhere in-between.)
I hate to speak about individuals. Players don’t win you trophies, teams win trophies, squads win trophies. ~ Jose Mourinho
As you build up “Team You,” you may find that there are people who make the list – the list of people you spend quite a few hours with every day/week – that actually DON’T build you up. They DON’T encourage you. They DON’T want to see you achieve even more success.
I know it seems crazy to think about; I didn’t even think about it; that is, until I had to. Recently Entrepreneur published an article that gives you specific tips to know whether it’s time to stop spending time with certain influential people.
In this post, I’ll share 2 things you can do to build your social network and gain momentum by spending more time with the people who are best for you.
People You Look Up To and Enjoy Being Around
In your journal (or on a blank piece of paper there on your desk) make a list of the first 10 people (keep on going, if there are more) that come to your mind when you review the following prompts:
- What radio/television (news) personality do you tune in to during the week?
- What journalist/author are you especially interested in reading this month/quarter?
- Who was the last speaker/presenter/workshop facilitator you learned from?
- When did you last speak to/connect with a university professor (from way back when)?
- Driving/Walking around your town/city, WHO is doing something amazing?
- Thinking about the last restaurant you ate at…who is the manager and/or owner?
Winning teams have the least amount of distractions. They have a really tight group of people working towards the same common goal. ~ Larry Dixon
Be the Person People Want to Spend Time Around
- Be in control; even-keeled, that is. People like to spend time with people who don’t over or under react. Be the kind of person who is consistent in word and action. (Easiest way I know of? Under-promise…and over-deliver.)
- Focus on your Most Important Things. People can tell if you’ve got your priorities straight. Again, agree, follow up on the agreement and make good on your promises; especially the ones you make to yourself.
- Make the most of every moment. Take advantage of what life has to offer. Get enough sleep; eat right; exercise a little bit more. There’s an opportunity around that corner looking for you. Are you ready to be found?
- Prepare yourself to be your best self (at work and in life). It used to be possible to say you were “at your best” in the morning, or at night, or right after lunch. Here’s what we know, there are things you can do that are much more in your control that will increase the likelihood that you’re “At Your Best.”
Build your network, starting today. Your future will be better because of the people with whom you spend the most time.